In Colossians 3:20, children are commanded to obey their parents in all things: for it is well blessing unto the Lord. However, it will not be pleasing to the Lord, if a child, in obedience to his parents goes to steal. Children are to obey their parents in the Lord. The secret to enjoying good days and long life is in obeying and honouring your father and mother.
The relationship between a husband and wife is one of the sacred relationships. As a two-way relationship both the husband and the wife are expected to work together to achieve the shared aim of successful relationship. The husband and the wife both have to make an effort to obey the charge of the Lord for their relationship to work, because God is the author of marriage.
There are sacred relationships among men that are clearly outlined in God's Word, namely husband-wife, parents-children, and master-servant. And the Lord has graciously provided guidelines to govern these relationships. Some partners in these relationships may prove difficult but we are required to do our utmost to live peaceably with all men.
The Lord has set two ways before every man and counsels us to choose the right way which leads to blessing and life. There is no death in the right way. The other way is that which seems right to a man but ends in death and destruction. The right way is narrow and therefore allows travellers to carry only what is essential and necessary for the journey of life.
Believers who live and walk before men are men-pleasers and do not have the fear of God. They may obey the word of God whenever they are among the people of God. However, in the absence of fellow believers, especially their leaders, they can even quarrel and fight for their rights in disobedience to God's word. The true measure of obedience to the word of God is seen outside the Church, among unbelievers.